Saturday, December 19, 2015

Parenting Methods: Gentle Parenting

Gentle Parenting is more of a sub-method, but I think it deserves its own post, because it is a direct response against “Authoritarian Parenting.” Here are the basic principles of gentle parenting:

  • Guide instead of controlling or ordering
  • Connect instead of punishing
  • Encourage; don't demand certain behaviours

I like the idea of gentle parenting, in the sense that you try to listen to and communicate with your child when it comes to correcting certain behaviours and attitudes. What I don't like is the supposition that authority is a bad thing. Here are some thoughts on the various principles and why I do or don't use them

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Parenting Methods: Attachment Parenting

I love reading about parenting methods. I find them illuminating, educational, and fun. The parenting methods out there are as varied as the children with whom they are practiced. There are essentially four parenting methods I am particularly drawn to, and there are aspects I love and hate about each of them.

The first method I want to talk about is called Attachment Parenting. It is most widely shared by Dr. Sears, a well respected pediatrician. I think part of the reason his touting of this method appeals to me is the fact that he has a large family; if a person only has one child and says that his/her method of parenting was the “only” method, I would probably be skeptical. Here are some typical practices of those who parent using this method:

  • Bonding after birth is incredibly important (the first few hours especially)
  • They carry their babies in a sling or wrap, against their bodies
  • They bed-share (sleep in same bed) or co-sleep (sleep in same room)
  • They breastfeed on demand and do this for as long as the child desires
  • They do not try to teach a baby to “self-soothe” or use baby-training methods
  • They stress the importance of a parent staying at home with the child/children